9 Signs that She’s the One
1. She’s open to your signs of weakness.
Just because you’re a guy doesn’t mean that you always have to suck it up. I mean, I’m not talking about whiny people who complain and grumble about everything. I’m talking about cases when work is really draining you out or you’re simply feeling down. She doesn’t expect you to be a Superman, but instead lends you her shoulder to rest on. She encourages you and stands by you even in times of difficulty.
2. She’s willing to improve.
She knows that she’s not perfect and is willing to make improvement where it’s necessary. She’s not stubborn to her ways, and knows when to apologize for her mistakes. She’s wise to accept her areas of growth, which makes her even a more mature and wiser person than when you first met her.
3. She accepts you for who you are.
She doesn’t expect you to meet all her needs or fit into her cookie-cutter image of an ideal boyfriend, nor does she start every sentence with, “My friend’s boyfriend bought her a Tiffany necklace just show her that he loves her.” She appreciates your effort and knows how to show it. She’s proud of who you are and always beams with love when she talks about you.
4. You guys have gone on a trip together, and you actually enjoyed it.
Spending a whole day with someone might be enjoyable, but spending a full week with someone can be less than comfortable. Being in a foreign place where you don’t know how to get anywhere can be exhausting, but if she manages to hold the nagging and complaining and instead enjoys the little bits of adventure with you, she might be someone who can go down the unpredictable life path with you.
5. She’s with you for your heart not for your state of materialistic conditions.
I know it’s not easy to determine if she’s in it for the sake of love or for the sake of your title. However it’s something you have to determine early on. Would she be with you if you didn’t have your title or money? If she has gone through difficult times with you, and is still beside you, she’s definitely a keeper.
6. She’s compassionate.
She values family, friends, her career, your dream, and people around her. She recognizes sadness and the unfortunate, and you can see that her heart goes out to where it needs comfort. She knows how to empathize with people, and she doesn’t turn away from sadness but rather copes with it.
7. She trusts you.
By trusting you, she puts a sense of responsibility in your life. Men often do better when they’re trusted to do good, so by having someone there to support you with trust, understanding, and encouragements, you can even surpass your limitations as a man.
8. She expresses her emotions.
She smiles when she’s happy, frowns when she’s mad, and cries when she’s sad. People who are comfortable with showing their emotions are readily more acceptable towards other people’s feelings too. People who are dry with their sentiments often keep wanting more, more, more from others to fulfill their emotional needs.
9. She is in front of you.
The best woman is the one in front of you. Of course, she’s not perfect. In fact, she makes mistakes everyday, she calls you mean names when you fight, and her car is messy to the point where you didn’t think was possible. But she calls you in the middle of the night to tell you that she misses you, she laughs (and even cries a little) when you tell a joke, she hugs you so tight, and she hates saying goodbye even when you two are going to meet again tomorrow morning. If she loves you, and you can feel it, she is the one.
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Now, these make every bit of sense… I’m sure there’s more, but a start for some..
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As always you didn’t disappoint, a well put together list. I’m not sure what it is, but perhaps it’s because it’s on your mind. I’ve recently read a book that talks about the things you should be looking for in a relationship, and I see many of those same things on your list. I like that you talk about vulnerability, self-improvement, heart over materialistic things, and accepting people for who they are.
Us guys have been thought not to show emotions, and I like that you touch on that. We all experience sadness, happiness, pain, hurt, joy and love. Why not show a range of emotions, why limit yourself. Besides crying or showing weakness shows that you trust that person, you’re willing to let them see you at your worse.
For me I tend not to get along well with people who see self-improvement as a curse. They feel that they know all that they can, and they shouldn’t change. I think it’s funny though, because life all around us is constantly changing. You get your dream job, and it turns out to be a nightmare. You pour out your feelings, only to not get it reciprocated. Life is full of examples of things not working out as we had hoped. While it’s one thing to stick to your core values, it’s another thing to refuse to adjust your values if you’re presented with better information. I will never understand people who are unwilling to change.
While I’ve not always held the view of being too materialistic, it’s definitely come into focus more recently to put more focus on the hearth. Life is full of uncertainties, that hot blond bombshell might get sick, due to illness or some unforeseen event, she may not always have that young physique. The insatiable chemistry you have in the beginning of a relationship fades. If we’re making finances, looks or chemistry the most important criteria. What happens when it’s time to talk about serious things like how many kids you want, how you’re going to raise them, where you’ll live etc.Putting your focus on the wrong values is setting your relationship up for failure.
People are inherently complicated, while some of us might be stuck in unhealthy habits, that we will eventually change. People don’t completely change their core values, make slight course corrections maybe. Lol as a female friend of mind told me today, “trying to change someone into the person you want them to be, is a very futile undertaking”
As usual you’ve created yet another insightful post, if you bottle what you have, can I have some 🙂
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It is true. Looking forward to a post which talks about ‘Signs that he’s the One.’
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This is very intuitive. Thanks for sharing! – Lena
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Change the title to “9 signs that he’s the one” and the list still applies, love has no gender, there’s just love! 😀
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True that 🙂
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Great list and nice point on it being gender neutral. I guess the only missing piece would be the 9 signs that you’re the ones for EACH OTHER and not just 2 great people in touch with your emotions
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Thats true. But relationships are soooo complex, its impossible to narrow it to a list.
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Absolutely. I once listed 10 things I’m looking for in a person to the person I’m now with, semi realizing he had all 10 but thinking there was a missing ingredient. There wasn’t 🙂
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I saw this…when I needed to see it…on this day…at this very moment…for a reason…and I receive the message…and now I’m sharing it…with you… (smile)
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❤️ thank you! I had to re-blog 😊
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The one I didn’t like number 2 willing to improve. I continue frequently trying to improve myself but not for any man ever, for myself. I won’t change myself if he doesn’t like something about me. I got the vibe from the context that you say she’s willing to change. I understand that could be misread but I wanted to specify. I’m not perfect but I’m awesome and I love myself enough that I’d rather be alone forever than be with someone who doesn’t love me the way I do. Otherwise it was a good article. Sorry it just got under my skin a little.
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Teresa, there’s no gentle way to say this, but it’s for your own good: there must be give and take in any relationship, and you are not flexible by any means. By communicating and being honest, you are already beginning to change for a significant other. Yes, love yourself, but beware self-love because this is self-doubt in disguise. Sometimes you just have to let go of your own bullshit and shut up because you’re boring. I may not have the perfect relationship, but I appreciate my husband, crust and all. I had to go through so many changes and so did he. We were living for others for so long that it was hard to come together and realize how happy we could make each other by just giving up our own egos, unrealistic expectations, and ideologies about love. It’s messy, stinky when he farts, but I love him unconditionally. Get over your feminist standards, because the water is fine with a few changes. The rate you’re going, you won’t even be appealing for a man’s side piece.
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People shouldn’t settle for anything less! Having respect / understanding and being a decent person in general is always a winner! People who know their own true value, and can see/ feel value in others always shine!!!! It works both ways for both sexes. ‘Improvement’ can be in terms of getting better at communicating when something isn’t working or making you happy. Communicating without defensive or confrontational tones! This kind of improvement is easier with the right person, otherwise it may be a recipe for disaster! – When you meet someone who is ‘open’ and on the ‘same page’ you are off to a great start! Thank you for the follow, a pleasure to read your work and nice to meet you. 🙂
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Awe sweet I really like this.
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Its a valiant list, and well-meaning, I’m sure. Equally, I’m sure no one of us has a partner who fulfills all its conditions: The different clauses could be said to cancel each other out, to a degree. My only worry is one I find myself subject to more and more these days: why do we have to set ourselves targets, conditions, provisions and caveats for everything – even partnership – in life? The woman I have lived happily beside for thirty years is nothing like me: I would criticize all her faults, as I am sure she has many, but it wouldn’t be fair because I simply don’t notice them. I am not even sure that where we started out was love, but I can tell you it is now. Though many might say we do not seem close (when we met we were past the two puppies in a crib stage anyway – I’ve had that; the two puppies thing, in my first marriage: it lasted five years) we are completely easy with each other and our mutual trust is absolute. That is the only condition for a long-term relationship: walk with the person who matches your stride and don’t, don’t, don’t over-think. You’ll miss so very much if you do.
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I do
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so true
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Nice to be here. Many thanks for your visit
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This was awesome, and actually what I wanted to discuss!
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always on point!
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True..you are best as always.keep writing.
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I was this . . .
but it wasn’t enough for Bob.
I guess for him, there’s a “10.” that was more important.
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I had a case too where all that was not enough.
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Life and love go hand in hand! I love your list and your blog is fun to follow!
Thanks for sharing,
Savannah Smiles
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Very insightful and true
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This would be anyone’s ideal woman, I would think. Hell, I want to be this woman! Problem is, there’s this little thing called reality…..and PMS. I’ve been married to a man for 16 years who has spent most of those years away from his humble abode, which leaves the bulk of life’s responsibilities to this little woman. After weeks of solo trips to the orthodontist, various athletic practices, meetings, the grocery store, school events, late night Wal-Mart runs, and oh yea, a full time teaching job, I don’t much care if my husband feels understood, protected or that I may need to improve upon something. One of the aforementioned areas I do excel at is expressing my emotions. Believe me you, the hubby never has to play emotional charades with this “she’s the one”. I can fully express my anger when he forgets to pick our son up from school the one time a month he’s actually available to do so because he “just didn’t notice the time” and I have no problem giving him a python like hug when he asks me if I would like for him to “write up a little diet for me” when I complain my pants are too tight. Somehow he finds the time to work out each day while I am struggling to schedule potty breaks. Reality is this: men, if you can find a woman who will bear, raise and maintain the fruit of loins, work a full time job and juggle everything else that makes your world spin; marry her, kiss her butt and count your freakin’ blessings.
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I love so many of these, I hope you don’t mind I had to reblog it. Beautifully said.
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Wow. That’s all I can say.
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This is great! I’m sure everyone tweaks this a little bit, adding things of their own preference, but what a great place to start!
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I’ve been a victim of an abusive relationship, and this reads like a list abusers pass around as a guideline for the perfect, subservient little woman.
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Dear you, do you ever think about am I the one for you?
Regarding to to this article, let me tell you something..
Indeed, by trusting you, I put sense of responsibility in your life. How I value my family, my friends, my career, your dream and people around me, means I’m a compassionate woman. I know how to empathize with people as well.
I don’t expect you to meet all my need or fit into my cookie-cutter image of an ideal boyfriend. I just appreciated your effort and sometimes know how to show it. You just never read that.
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There’s no one out there like that for me.
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A woman should always improver herself only for herself, never for anyone. If she feels she needs to change, she should. Unless she is doing something absolutely destructive, then she should try to change. Other than that, if no complaints come up, she doesn’t have to change herself.
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It’s no doubt that you are a gem, you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think… Whatever you do, just be good at it
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♡♡♡
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Truly there is always that right person meant for everyone,I agree on this!
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I only had the voice in my head that kept me pushing all others away and telling me “she’s the one.” She’s still the one more than 20 years later. And the voice in my head still tells me that. There have been times when I didn’t want to hear it, but that voice has always been right.
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